Who We Are.
Stalking can happen to anyone. Stop Stalking Us brings together the voices of those who are the object of unwanted attention and are forced to live with constant intrusions into their lives. Our goal is to promote awareness of this crime and how common and destructive it is. We want to help victims and their families and friends connect with others in a caring and informed community and advocate for cultural shifts and better laws that protect us. Stalking - a form of often invisible violence - requires a unique, robust support system.
Stalking is not new, but how we communicate and express ourselves publicly has evolved faster than we have established boundaries, safety measures, and proper criminal charges. Society requires us to be visible in order to participate fully in life, yet we have no way to guarantee that what we share won’t be used against us in invasive, violent ways. We need to take seriously the way in which increased visibility makes us vulnerable to people who take advantage of and weaponize information to harass us, follow us, and terrorize us. Our right to personal expression does not invite an invasion of privacy. Contrary to what our culture often tells us, both explicitly and implicitly, stalking is not romantic. Stalking is not a love language. Stalking is not a compliment. Stalking is not harmless. Stalking is a crime.
Being the object of a stalker and living in fear can be severely isolating. It can lead to cycles of distrust, self-blame, and shame, dramatically affecting every part of a person’s life. This must change.
We have combined our lived experiences and knowledge with intelligence and security experts, forensic psychologists, stalking experts, and researchers to try to make Stop Stalking Us a safe place and a community for anyone who has been stalked, is being stalked, or knows someone who needs help. In addition to our collection of first-hand experiences and resources, we are pioneering an informed, compassionate global community platform that allows people who have been the target of stalkers to connect with each other in an online forum created with customized security-specific features. Through these tools, we can begin to break the cycles of isolation, shame, and fear.
If you want to share your story with us, we are listening.
“Stalking is a deeply personal and invasive crime. Too often the actions of the stalker and the impact the person targeted experienced are misunderstood and [trivialized]. The harm caused by a stalker can change the life of the intended target and those close to that person. There doesn’t have to be violence for it be serious.
Stop Stalking Us will help to change the narrative and hopefully the response and if it can change one person’s experience then it will be a success.”
-Philip Grindel, MSc
Founder & CEO of Defuse Global; Stalking Expert
"Stalking is difficult to define and there is no shared language for describing it. As such, victims often feel that no one understands what they are going through.
Stop Stalking Us is an important initiative that will provide victims with a powerful voice."
-Dr. Lorraine Sheridan
Forensic psychologist & Stalking Expert
What We Stand For.
Stop Stalking Us unites people impacted by the dangerous, often invisible, crime of stalking. We start conversations to promote awareness of stalking abuse, help victims and their families and friends connect with others in a caring and informed community, and work to mitigate this form of violence. We demand that society acknowledges stalking as a violent crime as we advocate for the unique support that victims require and deserve.
Meet (some of) Us.
We are a team of individuals and professionals who have used our experiences and expertise to guide the formation of Stop Stalking Us. We’ve each taken into consideration what - if anything - about us can be shared publicly, but it’s important to us that you know our nonprofit is made of a team of deeply invested individuals and professionals dedicated to mitigating the violence of stalking.